Category: Love

How To Love a Person Where Their At In Life. Part 2

In part 1 of “How to love a person where their at in life.” I gave a few examples of what to focus on when you are loving a person where their at in life. In part 2 I’m going to break it down a little deeper, so I can help you understand how to love a person where their at in life.

Learning to love a person where their are in life isn’t easy. But if you want your relationship to last you must learn how to master this. Some of you may have to change your way of thinking when it comes to learning how to love a person where they are in life. The main key to this is focusing more on you and less on them. What do I mean by this you may be asking. Well in a relationship we tend to focus on our mates flaws more then our own flaws. You should always want to improve yourself mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially. Most people in a relationship never want to look at themselves as if they may not have issues within themselves they need to work on. But we all have issues!

We have to remember that just because 2 people are together in a relationship doesn’t mean were are the same. We are 2 different people with different mental, emotional, physical, spiritual and financial needs. We tend to put our mental, emotional, physical, spiritual and financial needs on other people looking for them to fix us. But if you are not happy with yourself, how can your mate or anyone make you happy when you don’t know what makes you happy. Example: If you tell your mate “I want to go out more” But your mate works hours only allow them certain days off. And when their off they spend time with you. This mean you want your mate to tend your needs that you yourself should tend too. Your mate is giving you want you need on their time. Treat yourself and take yourself out. It will make you feel happy. Your mate can’t make you happy first. You have to learn how to be the first to make you happy. You have to know what you really like and don’t like about yourself and focus on fixing you. Sure you my not like parts of your mate ways. But you job is to focus on the parts you do like about your mate and let them focus on what they don’t like about themselves. 9 out of 10 your mate doesn’t like the same parts of themselves you don’t like. If you don’t point those flaws out your mate will most definitely point out their own flaws to you and tell you they want to change them. If you set yourself as an example they will follow your example.

I’m not saying all mates will won’t to correct their flaws. But give a person a chance to try. If you don’t see any progress in them, then it may be time to make a decision to love them where they are from a distant. Yes you can love a person where they are in life from a distant. But that lesson will be for another time.

There are more parts to “How to love a person where their are in life” coming soon. Hope you like the second part.

How To Love a Person Where Their At In Life. Part 1

We all know that loving someone isn’t easy and most people in relationship come with baggage. Please understand that this advice is not for all relationships. There are some relationships that are not meant for a person to be loved where they are and still stay in that relationship. At another time we will cover those bad relationships. But today we are going to focus on relationships that you can love a person where they are.

Lets look at the mean of the word love. Love means: to have an intense feeling of deep affection. We all tend to love someone with intense feelings of deep affections. Sometime a little to deep that we try to change a person into what we feel they should be. But when you put to much focus on changing them you push them away, sometime into someone’s else arms. I have to say don’t focus on their negative habits or way of thinking. If you fell in love with them and they have good qualities that should be your main focus. Believe me when I tell you the person your in love with doesn’t like their negative habits or way of thinking. By focusing on the positives habits and way of think you are loving them where they are in life. The key to this is focusing on things you need to do to better yourself. Focusing on your negative and trying to work on it gives the person you love a good example so they can focus on improving themselves without you pushing. They will love you more for this. And it Gives them time to grow. You will start to see growth if you don’t push a person to change their bad habits or way of thinking. Be mindful that old habits are hard to change so leave room for mistakes. But the mistake shouldn’t be made repeatedly. If they keep making the same mistakes that means they are not really working on themselves, So how long you decided to hang in there will be up to you. My advice is to give a person a year. That doesn’t mean stay in a relationship if it bothers you to much. But if your willing to love them where they are you have the option to be in a committed relationship with room to grow or as friends with room to grow into a relationship.

Be mindful that the person you love will not be changing everything about them. That would be crazy for anyone to what someone to change everything about them. The person will no longer be the person you fell in love with. So How do I love a person where they are? Well here’s an example of how you can do that. Example: If the person you fell in love with makes you laugh and you love to laugh. That’s one positive thing to focus on. If the person you fell in love with shows they care about you offend then that’s a positive thing to focus on. The more you focus on the positive the less the negative will stand out. We tend to do this backwards and that’s why most relationships don’t last.

I hope this helps with learning how to love a person where they are in life. Be on a look out for more parts of learning how to love a person where they are in life. Please leave a comment if you liked this short read.