How To Love a Person Where Their At In Life. Part 2

In part 1 of “How to love a person where their at in life.” I gave a few examples of what to focus on when you are loving a person where their at in life. In part 2 I’m going to break it down a little deeper, so I can help you understand how to love a person where their at in life.

Learning to love a person where their are in life isn’t easy. But if you want your relationship to last you must learn how to master this. Some of you may have to change your way of thinking when it comes to learning how to love a person where they are in life. The main key to this is focusing more on you and less on them. What do I mean by this you may be asking. Well in a relationship we tend to focus on our mates flaws more then our own flaws. You should always want to improve yourself mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially. Most people in a relationship never want to look at themselves as if they may not have issues within themselves they need to work on. But we all have issues!

We have to remember that just because 2 people are together in a relationship doesn’t mean were are the same. We are 2 different people with different mental, emotional, physical, spiritual and financial needs. We tend to put our mental, emotional, physical, spiritual and financial needs on other people looking for them to fix us. But if you are not happy with yourself, how can your mate or anyone make you happy when you don’t know what makes you happy. Example: If you tell your mate “I want to go out more” But your mate works hours only allow them certain days off. And when their off they spend time with you. This mean you want your mate to tend your needs that you yourself should tend too. Your mate is giving you want you need on their time. Treat yourself and take yourself out. It will make you feel happy. Your mate can’t make you happy first. You have to learn how to be the first to make you happy. You have to know what you really like and don’t like about yourself and focus on fixing you. Sure you my not like parts of your mate ways. But you job is to focus on the parts you do like about your mate and let them focus on what they don’t like about themselves. 9 out of 10 your mate doesn’t like the same parts of themselves you don’t like. If you don’t point those flaws out your mate will most definitely point out their own flaws to you and tell you they want to change them. If you set yourself as an example they will follow your example.

I’m not saying all mates will won’t to correct their flaws. But give a person a chance to try. If you don’t see any progress in them, then it may be time to make a decision to love them where they are from a distant. Yes you can love a person where they are in life from a distant. But that lesson will be for another time.

There are more parts to “How to love a person where their are in life” coming soon. Hope you like the second part.

How To Love a Person Where Their At In Life. Part 1

We all know that loving someone isn’t easy and most people in relationship come with baggage. Please understand that this advice is not for all relationships. There are some relationships that are not meant for a person to be loved where they are and still stay in that relationship. At another time we will cover those bad relationships. But today we are going to focus on relationships that you can love a person where they are.

Lets look at the mean of the word love. Love means: to have an intense feeling of deep affection. We all tend to love someone with intense feelings of deep affections. Sometime a little to deep that we try to change a person into what we feel they should be. But when you put to much focus on changing them you push them away, sometime into someone’s else arms. I have to say don’t focus on their negative habits or way of thinking. If you fell in love with them and they have good qualities that should be your main focus. Believe me when I tell you the person your in love with doesn’t like their negative habits or way of thinking. By focusing on the positives habits and way of think you are loving them where they are in life. The key to this is focusing on things you need to do to better yourself. Focusing on your negative and trying to work on it gives the person you love a good example so they can focus on improving themselves without you pushing. They will love you more for this. And it Gives them time to grow. You will start to see growth if you don’t push a person to change their bad habits or way of thinking. Be mindful that old habits are hard to change so leave room for mistakes. But the mistake shouldn’t be made repeatedly. If they keep making the same mistakes that means they are not really working on themselves, So how long you decided to hang in there will be up to you. My advice is to give a person a year. That doesn’t mean stay in a relationship if it bothers you to much. But if your willing to love them where they are you have the option to be in a committed relationship with room to grow or as friends with room to grow into a relationship.

Be mindful that the person you love will not be changing everything about them. That would be crazy for anyone to what someone to change everything about them. The person will no longer be the person you fell in love with. So How do I love a person where they are? Well here’s an example of how you can do that. Example: If the person you fell in love with makes you laugh and you love to laugh. That’s one positive thing to focus on. If the person you fell in love with shows they care about you offend then that’s a positive thing to focus on. The more you focus on the positive the less the negative will stand out. We tend to do this backwards and that’s why most relationships don’t last.

I hope this helps with learning how to love a person where they are in life. Be on a look out for more parts of learning how to love a person where they are in life. Please leave a comment if you liked this short read.

Coronavirus! How to protect yourself with homemade items.

We all know living with this pandemic has us all scared to go outside just to get our essential needs. Why are we so scared. Well we are not prepared and alot of us don’t have the right things to go out to get the essential. In this article I will list things that I use to go out to get my essential needs.

First let’s start with hand sanitizer. We all know right now it is hard to find hand sanitizer and if find some; some is try to charge you an arm and leg for it. Well I have a simple solution for that. That is you make your own hand sanitizer. That’s right you can make your own. Here’s what you will need. Below is a list for making your own hand sanitizer. I will give your another list for making hand sanitizer with some different items as well.

Hand sanitizer with aloe vera.

  • Alcohol 70% or higher
  • Aloe Vera gel
  • Purified water
  • Empty bottle

Once you have gathered up the items in the above list. You are ready to make your on hand sanitizer. How much alcohol you add will determine how strong the hand sanitizer will be. For me I add more alcohol than another item on the list. Some people measure their amount. I on the other hand did not. I would say I fill the bottle with alcohol about half way, 1 tablespoon of aloe vera and the rest I fill with purified water. I then shake the bottle so that the mixture is mixed well. I then let it set over night to assure the mixture is fully fused. The next day you are ready to use. Easy and your are protected from the virus.

The next hand sanitizer recipe is just as easy. I stumbled upon this when I went to find some hand sanitizer at my local dollar store. There was no hand sanitizer at the store. I begin looking around at different items to see if anything had alcohol in the products. That didn’t pan out. So I started looking around for anything that stood out that I could use for hand sanitizer when I looked to my left and noticed a bottle of clear hair gel. That’s right clear hair gel. If you read the ingredients in a bottle of hair gel and a bottle of hand sanitizer. You will see they both have the same ingredients. Of course hair has some other items in it. But hand sanitizer and hair gel have what you need to make a good based for hand sanitizer. I will post pictures of the ingredients for both hand sanitizer and hair gel below. What else do you need for this hand sanitizer. You’ll need 70% alcohol, peroxide and container to mix everything in. Lastly you will need a bottle to put your mixture of hand sanitizer in. How much alcohol and peroxide you mix will be up to your liking. I pour more alcohol then peroxide. I full the container up halfway with hair gel. I pour alcohol about 1/2 a cup and the rest peroxide. Mix ingredients, then let it set over night. The next day the hand sanitizer is ready to use. I use this hand sanitizer everytime I go out. Below is a picture of the ingredients of both hand sanitizer and hair gel.

Hand sanitizer ingredients

Ingredients: water, carbomer,trierhanolamine,glycerin, propylene glycol, fragrance,aloe barbadensis leaf juice, fd&c blue no 1, fd&c yellow no. 5, 70% alcohol



Hair Gel Ingredients

Ingredients: purified water, PVP, propylene Glycol, Carbomer 940, Triethanolamine, Polysorbate 20, Fragrance,NIA4EDTA, Mothyl,Chloro isothia

The next item you can make at home, is homemade bleach wipes. It’s simple and easy to make. All you need is a bottle of bleach, baby wipes, and a ziplock bag. I actually found some baby wipes with a snap lid. You too may found these as well. If you happen to find that kind, you are 1 step ahead. If you find the baby wipes with the lid snap the lid open and peel the little plastic to open the wipes. After you have the wipes open pour bleach to soak the wipes. That’s all to it. You now have bleach wipes to disinfect as needed. If you can’t find the wipes with the snap lid. You can place the baby wipes in a ziplock bag and the pour bleach to soak the wipes. Make sure you label your wipes so you and other don’t mistake it for regular baby wipes

Homemade Bleach Wipes

Thank you everyone Stay Home and Be Safe

(Coronavirus) How to safely deliver food as a Doordash, Ubereats, Grubhub, and other food delivery driver to non-contact customers.

March 19, 2020

We all know that COVID-19 coronavirus can spread by someone who is infected with the virus. As Americans learn more about this virus we are doing everything we can to try and stop the spread of the virus. When I was delivery food to customers I came up with a way to protect my customers and myself. I say was because I had to make a choice to stop delivery to protect my 8yr. old son who has a history of asthma. I to have a history of asthma but I wasn’t worried about getting the virus like most of us are. Even though I will chance my life I will not chance my son’s nor my 63 year old Mother who also is vulnerable to get the virus.

A little before the no-contact delivery came in to play. I had already decided to start informing my customer that their food delivery would be no-contact. I even gave them 2 option for what to use for me to place their food. The 1st option was a chair and the 2nd option was a tote. I informed the customer that this step is to protect them, their families and myself. I haven’t had any problems with the customers following those directions. Doing this even improved my tips. There is what I text my customer before I head to pick up their food

Here is what I text my customer before I head to pick up their food. “Hello Valued Customer I am a delivery driver who takes pride in delivering. Due the great concern about the coronavirus I will be taking the necessary precautions to deliver your food in a safe matter. I ask that you place a chair or tote in the desire location for me to place your food. This delivery will be a no contact delivery to protect you, your family and myself. I will keep you up to date throughout your delivery. Have a Bless Day”

The customer appreciated that I take the time out to let them know what my procedure when delivery their food safety. But what my customer didn’t know is I even took even more safety precautions before, during and before the delivery. Before I get out the car to get their order. I grab a disposable bleach wipe to grab the door handle. I don’t approach the food counter until the restaurant server is ready to give me the customer’s food. I don’t sit down or lean on anything thing. I also forgot to mention I don’t bring the food warmer in with me. The reason being is for safety of course. Before knowing about the virus I would sit the bag on the counter or even a table to place the food in when it was given to me. Now I keep the food warmer bag in my truck. I is safe. I don’t take the bag out of my truck and when I get the customer’s food I pop the truck with my keys and then place the food in the bag. I feel it’s better putting the food in the truck. If I sneeze or cough their food is no where around.

If you are delivery food or thinking about delivery food. Please take the proper precautions to secure the customer’s food. Right now your job is very important and you are providing public service to people who can’t get food themselves or choose to obey what the government says and that is to stay in doors until they can solve this health issue.

Here is an example of me communicating with a non-contact customer below.

Example: Communicating with a non-contact customer

Here is an example of how my truck is set up with food delivery bags below.

Keeping food delivery safe for the customer.

For those who like this blog. Please come back and check out new post. Thank you and God Bless.